So 2020, I was really not looking forward to you for reasons most of my readers will be aware of. As we approach Brexit day I can’t help reflecting that Brexit is not really about the actual institution of the European Union but rather about using an imagined EU as a focus for a wide variety of grievances, with the aim of enabling a populist, authoritarian and socially conservative remodelling of our country and its institutions. This cannot be a good thing for those who identify as kinky, LGBTQ, or sex positive, notwithstanding that we have a Prime Minister who just can’t keep his cock in his trousers whenever he comes across a woman daft enough to want to sleep with him.
The last three years have taken a toll on my mental health, and not only mine. I totally recommend this post for the New Year by Posy who writes about January here
It was 6 years ago that I set foot in the fet scene thinking I was probably a sub. Just three months later a lady I met in a club evidently spotted something in me and invited me to join her in administering a spanking. This was a lifechanging event and consequently I can very much relate to Nikki’s experience. She writes about her first femdom experience here.
Female submission is still a bit of an alien world to me even though I have got to know a number of femsubs both on the scene and through Eroticon and I enjoy reading things written from a femsub perspective. I have had submissive women ask me for play and, in fact, have played on one occasion. But I do struggle to get into the dynamic even I find the idea really hot. It is said that reading can be both a genuine enhancement of experience and a means of self understanding. This by Submissy is brilliant and the picture is just amazing.
It has been a while since I got around to visiting Victoria Blisse’s blog and I do love a poem.
And it is January, the longest, dreariest month, so it is nice to be reminded that summer is not so far away and Master’s Pleasing Bitch does it most enjoyably here
Now many of you will know that Posy Churchgate and I are good mates, sister in smut (and champagne!), in fact, and I really admire her writing. I make no apology for plugging her work on this blog and she is getting another mention this month. This, by a strange irony on the Sisters in Smut blog, is simply the best thing she has written.
There have been a number of reflective and thought provoking posts this months and The Other Livvy posted this amazing piece on sex after childbirth
I love pictures with a touch of humour so this by Molly really appealed to me.
Since emerging as a dominant on the fet scene I have explored a number of new kinks so I can relate to this by Floss
And this description of a visit to a pro dommme for an introduction to CP is also something I can totally relate to. And I am so glad that MLSlavePuppet had such a positive experience.
There were a number of brilliant posts for Wicked Wednesday 400 including the piece I have linked to above. I also enjoyed Love Lust London’s excursion to mediaeval France
and anything by Eye is worth a read such as this . I can say that I have experienced every one of the fears and insecurities she mentions. I will say two things. I first spoke to Eye at my first Eroticon 2014 and we have been in regular contact ever since. I admire her as a brilliant writer, as a woman who is an inspiration to all older women. Sexy after the M word? You bet and you can be fucking hot too. I also admire her for her strength. She has had a lot of shit to put up with and has come out fighting. She is a valued member of our community. But this is a community that values all its members. And before I get on to my monthly dose of car porn for you my parting thought is this:
The 31st January 2020 will not go down as an auspicious day in the history of our country. It marks a triumph of populist demagoguery over reason, lies over truth, prejudice over tolerance. It marks, too, the arrival of US style culture wars on our shores. For our community of bloggers, many of whom are LGBT or kinky or poly or a combination of these, who embrace an ethical and positive approach to sex, who celebrate all forms of consensual sexuality as a source of joy and liberation, there are dark times ahead. We must stick together, for we need each other. TOGETHER WE ARE STRONG
And what of car porn? Going back to 1980 one of the cars I desired was the Mk 2 Ford Escort RS2000 which ceased production that year. But I also had a soft spot for the Talbot Sunbeam Lotus, a worthy successor to the Ford/Lotus collaborations of a decade earlier. Here are three of them in the 1980 RAC Rally with some amazing driving by winner Henri Toivonen.