I have been thinking a lot recently about the platonic love of women for women and how any intimate, emotionally engaged friendship is, or may be, powered by sublimation of sexuality. Annette von Droste Hulshoff (1797-1848) was a minor German noblewoman who lived in a castle in Westphalia, and poet (a very fine poet too) who, towards the end of a relatively short life which … Continue reading PHILIPPA
Elizabeth, Empress of Austria, Queen of Hungary and a raft of other titles I can’t remember but Galicia and Lodomeria are in n there somewhere has been talked about, written about and inspired more films than many royal women. She was a woman who did her won thing, defied convention, broke free of the suffocating corset of Habsburg court protocol and eventually left her husband, … Continue reading CORSAGE
I was reminded by this by the previous prompt, Other People’s Orgasms. For it was in discovering the true delights of a lover’s vulva that I also learnt that I too have a kink (if you can call it that) for pleasuring other people without expecting anything back. Actually I do get something back, I get the joy of having been allowed to make them … Continue reading A WALK IN THE LADY GARDEN
I have been quiet on this blog for quite a while. After a busy 2020, when writing dulled the pain of being under effective house arrest, and a slightly less busy but still productive 2021, I had a quiet 2022 as normal life resumed and gathered speed, maybe a little more quickly than I would have liked. There are reasons for this, of course, the … Continue reading IN THE YEAR OF NOT GOING TO EROTICON
In my last post on the ever-wearying trans debate I said I would return to the issue of single sex spaces. Here goes: I am going to start with Blackpool Football Club and an apology to any Seasiders fans who may be reading this as I am going back to a time in their club’s history that they do not remember fondly. That is the … Continue reading A FEW THOUGHTS ON “SINGLE SEX SPACES”
I have a friend, let’s call her Sarah. Some years ago Sarah was trapped in an abusive relationship, emotionally abusive and not physically I understand. This relationship left her with deep seated feelings of worthlessness and, as so often in abusive relationships, a perception that she had to stay with her abuser because no one else would have her. She did not deserve better. At … Continue reading Roe v Wade – A Wider View
I love my female friendships, I do. I love that I can share and that my girlfriends want to share with me. I think I am quite a complex person, difficult even, certainly often troubled, and I love that I have women in my life who care about me and are ready ti listen and, sometimes, offer sensible advice. I could not live without them. … Continue reading A NIGHT OUT WITH THE GIRLS
There was a time when a hotel room key was a key. And then your room key became a plastic thing, the size of a credit card that was programmed at reception when you checked in and presented to you in a paper holder with your room umber written on with a ballpoint pen. The room door has a variety of contraptions for you to … Continue reading ON HOTELS, LIFTS AND CARD KEYS
I now only work 3 days a week which means I should have more time to do what I love most, namely blogging (or should I say doing the things I blog about). But since the end of lockdowns and restrictions my posts her have become intermittent. This is not the first time. I began the blog at the end of 2012 at a time … Continue reading BACK TO BLOGGING 
Finally a New Year post. I have been a bit busy you see, with postgraduate study and general post-pandemic fatigue. So I have been quiet here. I wasn’t only generally world weary but sex weary, kink weary and even football weary, But that, as they day, is a different story. Frankly if you had had to watch West Bromwich Albion for most of this season … Continue reading New Year – Getting My Mojo Back
Sex Work and Human Rights
Not your fluffy feminism
60 something nomadic traveller
The Sex Industry Blog - For Media Enquiries please call us on 020 7175 0180 or email dearharlot@gmail.com
26 years of previously repressed melodrama
celebrating women and exploring sexuality
A Kiss is Just a Kiss -
Madam Becky Adams. Award Winning Author & Keynote Speaker 'The Art of Seductive Customer Servicing.' - Profitable liaisons with the customer sub-conscious.
Eve's Temptations 