I have been thinking a lot recently about the platonic love of women for women and how any intimate, emotionally engaged friendship is, or may be, powered by sublimation of sexuality. Annette von Droste Hulshoff (1797-1848) was a minor German noblewoman who lived in a castle in Westphalia, and poet (a very fine poet too) who, towards the end of a relatively short life which … Continue reading PHILIPPA


Elizabeth, Empress of Austria, Queen of Hungary and a raft of other titles I can’t remember but Galicia and Lodomeria are in n there somewhere has been talked about, written about and inspired more films than many royal women. She was a woman who did her won thing, defied convention, broke free of the suffocating corset of Habsburg court protocol and eventually left her husband, … Continue reading CORSAGE


I was reminded by this by the previous prompt, Other People’s Orgasms. For it was in discovering the true delights of a lover’s vulva that I also learnt that I too have a kink (if you can call it that) for pleasuring other people without expecting anything back. Actually I do get something back, I get the joy of having been allowed to make them … Continue reading A WALK IN THE LADY GARDEN


I have been quiet on this blog for quite a while. After a busy 2020, when writing dulled the pain of being under effective house arrest, and a slightly less busy but still productive 2021, I had a quiet 2022 as normal life resumed and gathered speed, maybe a little more quickly than I would have liked. There are reasons for this, of course, the … Continue reading IN THE YEAR OF NOT GOING TO EROTICON


In my last post on the ever-wearying trans debate I said I would return to the issue of single sex spaces. Here goes: I am going to start with Blackpool Football Club and an apology to any Seasiders fans who may be reading this as I am going back to a time in their club’s history that they do not remember fondly. That is the … Continue reading A FEW THOUGHTS ON “SINGLE SEX SPACES”

Roe v Wade – A Wider View

I have a friend, let’s call her Sarah. Some years ago Sarah was trapped in an abusive relationship, emotionally abusive and not physically I understand. This relationship left her with deep seated feelings of worthlessness and, as so often in abusive relationships, a perception that she had to stay with her abuser because no one else would have her. She did not deserve better. At … Continue reading Roe v Wade – A Wider View

New Year – Getting My Mojo Back

Finally a New Year post. I have been a bit busy you see, with postgraduate study and general post-pandemic fatigue. So I have been quiet here. I wasn’t only generally world weary but sex weary, kink weary and even football weary, But that, as they day, is a different story. Frankly if you had had to watch West Bromwich Albion for most of this season … Continue reading New Year – Getting My Mojo Back