SoSS – March

In the month that was to have been dominated by Eroticon, and for which I spent quite a bit of time preparing,  I still managed to find time for reading and here is a selection of things that I particularly enjoyed.

Following the various memes  gives me the opportunity to discover new blogs and I am so pleased to have discovered The Artful Muse via Sinful Sunday . I love this image.

Wax play is something I haven’t done a lot of in the course of my kink career but I have seen how, done well, it is art. Like this from Purple’s Gem

Body positivity is always good to read about and particularly when it comes after a period of negativity. I am sure we could all love our bodies more. This  is the story of how one blogger learned to love her body.

Sinful Sunday is an unending source of delights. I am always amazed at how inventive people are. And there are always pictures that just grab your attention and you can’t take your eyes off them. Like this from Little Switch Bitch.

Or this from Marie Rebelle

Every thing by Victoria Blisse is worth reading but this was lovely.

ML Slave Puppet has posted some weirdly hot pics of her kink journey and the tasks set for her. I particularly enjoyed this floral tribute.

And so to lockdown which has cut many of us from actual physical contact with our lovers and kink play partners.  A reflection here from This Girl and here from Exposing 40

I guess many of us are missing hugs at the moment and hugs was the theme  of the most recent Wicked Wednesday. One highlight was this by Purples Gem which features possibly the most amazingly erotic picture I have ever seen.

And I had hoped to read more and feature more posts but, like all of you, have had to radically reorganise my life this month and this has affected my reading and writing. But I will be resuming normal service next month. I need it now more than ever and my connections with you wonderful sexy people the main thing keeping me out of a very dark place. Thank you for coming here to read my thoughts, thank you for giving me wonderful things to read. My love to you all.

And the car porn for March is something a little different. There are apparently plans fro Formula One cars to have two stroke engines in a few years time. There are, I am told, sound technical reasons for this but I will forever associate two stroke engines with   cars like this (OK a sporty version)


Nights at the Taj

It was just 13 days ago that I last had a curry at my favourite Indian restaurant in Birmingham but that seems an age ago as I write. It could many months before I go here again. And I will miss the Chicken Rezala as much as I will miss my own personal stash of Wolf Blass Chardonnay, not on the wine list but kept specially for me and those lucky enough to go there with me. For the service I receive here is second to none.

A restaurant called the Taj Mahal  founded in 1962, as the sign proudly proclaims, should have flock wallpaper and have Chicken Tikka Madras as the signature dish. No doubt it did at one time but that was long before I discovered it with a girlfriend some years ago. The decor these days is bright and contemporary and the menu has a range of dishes that were unknown when I first went to curry houses nearly 40 years ago.

I mention it here as it is where I go or a quiet chat with my slave once a month, schedules permitting.  We have the Wolf Blass, we have our own discreet table out of sight, and earshot, of anybody else, and we talk kink and the stuff we do together with surprising freedom  for a vanilla location. He has a fantasy about drinking my champagne in public, in the restaurant, but we haven’t managed that yet. But there are many different and subtle ways in which I can exercise dominance over him that nobody watching would even notice.  And so The Taj Mahal is more than a friendly restaurant for us, it is a safe space.

As I left two weeks ago the manager said to me “you are not just a customer to us, you are a friend.”   And I will miss my friends over the coming months. But when my slave and I go there again I think we just may have champagne to celebrate.

A post about food. You can find more bloggers musing on eating out here

Not Eroticon

At 2.35 this afternoon I had expected to be starting, a little nervously,  my presentation on masturbation at Eroticon 2020 . Instead I was returning home after getting my boots reheeled at the local cobbler. After a cup of tea and a cigarette I put the Christmas decorations away in the loft. It has really taken me that long  to get round to it! Earlier I met my Portuguese friend Carlos for lunch on his birthday and the chana masala at our favourite curry pub was rather good, The pub is close to The Hawthorns and today, which would have been a matchday, it would normally have been standing room only. My order, placed an hour and a half after opening time, was order number 4 which shows how quiet the pub was. Everywhere has been eerily quiet the last couple of days. It is as if everyone is hibernating waiting for the apocalypse. I feel a pervasive anxiety I cannot shake off.

I was so looking forward to Eroticon , to hanging out with my people, to drinking from the well of awesomeness that it represents for me, and others,  and recharging my sex blogging batteries for the coming months So I was bitterly disappointed when Eroticon was cancelled. I cried, and I was not the only one I am sure. I should make it clear that I fully support  Molly and Michael’s; decision  to cancel. They really had no other option and I know that the pain they feel is greater than mine.

But every cloud as they say,  has a silver lining. I chatted to a number of Eroticon friends online and felt so much better. Smutathon 2020 is being organised, I have a meetup with Posy Churchgate in the diary and maybe, just maybe, there may be another meetup in Birmingham in the summer. For Eroticon is much more than a conference. It is a community.

Tonight the plan was to go to Poppy’s in Camden with Posy for fish and chips, vintage style and I definitely planned not to get mushy peas over my dress this year! But I am having fish and chips at home instead, and I have prosecco. I will raise a glass to Posy. I will raise a glass to all of you. Until the next time!

Eroticon 2020 – Meet and Greet

It is nearly that time again – sexy Christmas when I learn a lot, drink too much, and get to hang out with some of the most amazing, talented and sexy people I know. As usual, Molly has invited us to do a virtual Meet and Greet. Here is mine:

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Eve Ray and I tweet at @EveRay1

Tell us 3 things you are most looking forward to at Eroticon 2020

  1. My speaking debut…..a bit of apprehension too but I have run parts of it past people and the jokes seem to work. Have I set myself up to fail now?
  2. Friday night. It is such a lovely thing when the faces of people you love and admire light up when they see you and you know they are not faking it. And a hug from Drew is just the loveliest thing!
  3. Meeting new people and learning new things. This is my 7th Eroticon and several of the people I used to talk to regularly, especially in the Bristol days, no longer come.  But there are always new faces and it is brilliant that so many of the new faces contribute so much and have such an impact. Is it really only 3 years ago that Coffee and Kink turned up as a nervous newbie? Seeing how she has blossomed as a writer and blogger reminds me of what this event can do for people and, indeed, what it has done for me.

Sadly with a change of venue this year for the Friday night meet and greet we won’t be compiling a play list but I know that everyone enjoys that bit so…. What is a song that always makes you want to dance?


Maybe not dance but had there been a playlist I would have wanted to commemorate Ian Dury who died on 27th March 2000. And his smuttiest song is undoubtedly Billericay Dickie. “She took me to the cleaners and other misdeameanours” . Actually I think I could dance to this!,

What is the best book you have read in the last 12 months?

Not an easy read but Milkman by Anna Burns, set in a nationalist area of Belfast during the Troubles and an insight into the oppressive, claustrophobic and deeply misogynistic environment that people had to live in, where women’s lives were closely policed, where the narrator is regarded with deep suspicion  as a woman who reads literary fiction and attends a French class in the city centre, where she meets people from the “other side” .A difficult read but a worthwhile one.

As you sit writing this post what are three things you are grateful for?

1. The friends who keep me from black despair in these desperate times for all of us who value freedom, tolerance and diversity.

2. Health and a full head of hair.

3.  The mysteries of evolution that led from the primordial soup to the female body and the unfathomable beauty of the vulva. And that we now have a museum to celebrate this.

What is your mobile (cellphone) wallpaper or home screen image?

Marlene Dietrich in a Dior turban and the most exquisite leather gloves. But you know that my heart will always belong to her don’t you?

If someone gave you £5000 today which you were not allowed to save but had to spend within 24 hours what would you do with it?

Buy a Triumph Dolomite Sprint (which is still just about possible)

Complete the sentence:

I need.

A house with a wine cellar and a walk in wardrobe.

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SoSS February edition

February is a grim month (the Polish word for it “luty”  actually means bleak) and I do need a bit of filth and good writing about sex and sexuality to keep me going.

I have never had children and my lifestyle is not something I have to hide from too many people but I have had some interesting  chats with 24/7 D/S couples at fet events.  So this by Submissy caught my eye.

February has been the month of the Photofest and I haven’t taken part in this, what with a holiday and thinking ahead to my Eroticon presentation but here a few things I enjoyed:

This by Jupiter Grant

And can cooked breakfasts ever be the same again after this by Exposing 40?

I was intrigued by this from Love is a Fetish. It has also given me an idea for a story so I may well be returning to it.

And May More has some amazing pics on her site. Like this

I was intrigued too by this from Focused and Filthy.  Washing someone can be a wonderfully inmate thing,  and a lovely way of getting to know their body, all of their body’ Watching someone wash and seeing how they interact with their body is, I think,  hot.

Sweet Girl reflects on love here

I have written about discovering my sexual self relatively late in life. I found this on Tabitha Raynes’s blog quite beautiful. It is never too late to discover yourself sexually.

One day a week I  work from home. One of the downsides of this (apart from the central hearing bill!) is the knock on the door from the Parcelforce man who has a parcel for the neighbours. This is a bit of a nuisance to be honest but if a parcel arrived looking like this  I might see things differently!

Mid month I took a little break from blogging, as well as reading blogs,  as I had a week away in Madeira (thoroughly recommended if you haven’t been)  and have been catching up since coming back. This was an unusual story about self-imposed chastity.

And what of car porn? Last Sunday I went to Race Retro at Stoneleigh and saw a race prepped Austin A35 in the flesh so to speak. So this month’s car porn is the humble Austin A35. Once upon a time I used to get a lift home from school in a green A35 and was always fascinated by the knob thingy on top of the dash that operated the indicators. Now the A35 wasn’t the quickest but……it used in standard form a 948cc version of the BMC A Series engine. And that engine is very very tuneable. The Speedwell firm got to work on it and souped up A35s were a common sight at saloon car races (and still are at classic events today). Here they are at Snetterton in 1958, one of them being driven by the great Graham Hill.  As swoon at that Speedwell head…




Delphine’s Schooldays

Once we have Eroticon out of the way, Posy Churchgate and I are going to be collaborating on an extended story set in a girls’ boarding school in Surrey in the 1950s. Here is a little appetiser.


One of the joys of retirement is being able to go away during the school term. Until my retirement as Headmistress of St. Faith’s School for Girls last summer, holidays were always during the busy months of July and August. It is nice to be able to get away from children. In retirement I still holiday with my very good friend Miss Rushworth, formerly Head of English at the school, a respected colleague to whom I have become very close. It is many years since I have been to Paris and it has been so nice to revisit the sights at a tome when they are still fairly quiet. It has been nice too to brush up my French.
Yesterday we were walking along the Champs Elysees thinking it might be time to pop into a cafe and take the weight off our feet when I saw a newspaper shop. As I like to read Le Figaro when I have the opportunity I made for it.

“Mary” I said, “I am just going to buy a newspaper. I will only be a minute.”

I went into the cramped shop with its smell of tobacco and my eyes scanned the shelves with the magazines. I started as I saw the cover of the latest Vogue.
There was a very familiar face looking down at me. I read

“Delphine de Lotbiniere at 40. Ageless Beauty and Personal Fulfilment. Exclusive Interview and New Photoshoot”

My hands were sweating as I reached for it. I paid for it and left.

“Did you get your newspaper?” asked Mary.

“No. I got this instead.”

I showed her the cover.

“Do you remember Delphine de Lotbiniere at St. Faith’s?”

“I do” replied Mary, “a rather headstrong girl as I recall, and not particularly gifted academically. Not that she needed academic gifts with her undeniable beauty and the Lotbinere estate to inherit.”

“You knew that she had made a career for herself in modelling?”

“Someone did tell me at the Old Girls’ Reunion a couple of years ago. And one could only wish her well even if one disliked her intensely when she was at the school.”

We found a café and sat outside to enjoy the warmth of the late spring afternoon. I leafed through the magazine. There were photographs of Delphine at home with her actor husband and her daughters, aged 10 and 8 who, I could already see, were going to grow up to be as beautiful as their mother. Home was the chateau at Bourg La Chatte near Bordeaux , which had belonged to the Comtes de Lotbiniere since the year 1250. Delphine, an only child, had inherited the title on the death of her father 3 years earlier. She was now Delphine, Comtesse de Lotbinere.

There was an interview. I read quickly, my eyes scanning the text for my name.

“You went to school in England?”

“Yes, from 16 to 18. I was at St. Faith’s’ in Surrey, not far from London.”

“Did anyone there influence you?”

“Yes, the Headmistress Miss Ranson. She taught me always to pick myself up after being knocked down. And to hit back if you are hit. She made me a harder, tougher person. I owe her a lot.”

I blushed as I read this. Then I turned to the photoshoot. Delphine’s face was now lined, showing the marks of age but this actually made her more beautiful. She was radiant and I thought about her life, compared to mine. She had fame, she had an estate with acres and acres of vineyards, she had a gorgeous husband, she had children, She had sex. She had money. I was a desiccated spinster, just about getting by on a modest pension.

I took a sip of my coffee and leafed trough the dozen pages of the photoshoot. There was Delphine in evening gowns, Delphine in a sparkly shift dress, there was equestrian Delphine. There was Delphine in thigh boots. I gasped and felt a twitching in my knickers. It was a photograph taken from below, emphasising the magnificence of her long, booted legs.

“Oh to be under those boots” I murmured.

“I’m sorry?” said Mary.

“Oh nothing. I was about to start reminiscing about the school in the early 50s. I think it was 1952 when Delphine started at the school. I had just been appointed Headmistress. And looking back, I think that maybe I was too eager to impose my way and exert discipline. I was certainly very harsh on Delphine, maybe too harsh?”

“That was certainly my view” said Mary giving me an enigmatic look that made me rather uncomfortable.

The itch remained with me as we carried on sightseeing, as we dined in our hotel.
“You must excuse me Mary” I said, standing up. “I am feeling a little tired. I think I will have an early night.”

I lay in bed and studied the picture of Delphine, committing it to memory. I kissed each boot, kissed her jean clad crotch.

“Madame La Comtesse je vous adore” I said as if reciting bedtime prayers. I put the magazine down, switched the light off and worshipped her in the sweet darkness, massaging my clit until I came, came for her.

At six o’clock I rose, took my case and made my way to reception, being careful not to disturb anyone, least of all Mary. I felt bad about leaving her alone in Paris but she would surely see that I had to do this and forgive me.

I paid my bill, left a note for Mary and waited for my taxi. At the Gare d’Austerlitz I went straight to the ticket window.

“Un billet simple a Bordeaux s’il vous plait.”

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She Loves Me Not……and I’m Cool with that

I am enjoying the thing of beauty that is unrequited love. This is all new for me, it is exciting and it makes me happy. Actually I don’t love Rebecca. I don’t really know her well enough for that to make sense. I adore her although I hardly know her. We cross paths maybe half a dozen times a year through the Fet scene.  We don’t have long conversations, but the ones we have are deep. We have a connection, but one that is some way short of friendship. And I am happy with that. Because distance is essential for the beautiful thing I have.

Rebecca is a lot younger than me, 29 to my 57. She is beautiful, creative, and fiercely clever. Early on, I  had the feeling that she had found a window to my soul.  Some months ago, I realised, and was a little startled to realise that I had a big crush on her.  What this crush was and what it meant, took a while to process. I talked it over with her and she was very comfortable with the idea. In fact, she loved the idea. In part this must be because everyone wants to be adored but to be adored by someone you know who is bot looking for sex with you or a relationship, or even to be part of your life in any way beyond casual acquaintance is not, something, I guess, many people get to experience.

My adoration of Rebecca is not sexual although it is undeniably fuelled by my sexual energy. This is an important distinction and not one that everyone will understand. Rebecca does. She knows what this is and what it isn’t. It is intellectual, spiritual even, She once recited a favourite poem to me and I was blown away by her power and emotional intensity.

I didn’t know that she loves poetry but that is brilliant because I had decided to give her a poem every time I saw her (and a couple of these have been posted on this blog).   This is given me an unexpected benefit. The act of writing for her has released a major creative blockage and allowed me, after many years, allowed me to finish a number of poems on non sex related themes that I had been struggling with. So I do get something in return for my devotion. I get inspiration. I get my creative spark kindled. Rebecca is my muse. And every writer needs a muse.

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