Toys – yes I remember them, they are kept mostly in a suitcase in my spare room. It’s been 18 months since I last had a proper play session and I have hardly looked a them in that time. Then I saw the topic for the new Kink of the week and had a rummage. This is my favourite gag. I like it because it … Continue reading When Gags Suck……
“Pleasure is sweetest when ’tis paid for by another’s pain.” – Ovid I remember the day I discovered I was a sadist, Saturday April 5th 2014 (7 years to the day as I write). I went to an afternoon spanking party at a local club, thinking I was a submissive. The host and house domme gave me the first spanking of the day which I quite enjoyed. As … Continue reading An Accidental Sadist? Or The Seven Year Itch
I had a new follower on Twitter last week. To decide whether this person was worth following back I had a quick look at their timeline and saw a series of tweets of dicks, of vulvas in pictures taken from so close up, you could literally count the hairs, graphic clips of penetrative sex, usually doggy style in the manner of particularly tedious cisheteronormative porn, … Continue reading Kinkphobia Strikes Again
The hangman’s fracture is a break of the second vertebra of the spinal column. It is so called as the British method of hanging, the long drop, aimed to kill swiftly and painlessly by breaking the neck at the second vertebra. There are stories of the hangman Albert Pierrepoint feeling the necks of his victims after taking their bodies down to check that he had … Continue reading The Hangman’s Fracture
It is sometimes said that that BDSM can be cathartic, giving people the chance to work through emotional baggage in a safe and non-judgemental environment, reenacting things as parody, turning pain as pleasure. I agree that I can. And that is the key word. I know kinksters who have experience things so painful that BDSM simply doesn’t work as catharsis and would simply bring back … Continue reading Keep Fit, Keep Kinky
All but one of my play partners hate the cane. Most are not keen on paddles either. But all of them love floggers. Which is good because I do too. In fact my floggers are my favourite toys. I love the variety of floggers that are available, the different ways you can wield them, the sensations the bottom feels, from softness and sensuality to stinging … Continue reading The Joy of the Flogger
“Control a man’s cock and you have the key to his soul.” As I left the hotel and set off in search of a restaurant, I kept repeating this over to myself. The session had not gone quite as I had planed it. I was more intuitive and spontaneous in those days. As I sat in the armchair I was using for a throne, one … Continue reading The Key To His Soul
I was born in 1962. It was well into my lifetime when corporal punishment was abolished in UK schools and some of the things that happened, even as David Bowie was reinventing himself as Ziggy Stardust, now seem truly shocking. I remember coming home from school in tears after a headmaster had threatened to cane the whole year over something (admittedly something particularly unpleasant and … Continue reading Strap Lines
So what did I get up to on that Monday after Eroticon? I did something I hadn’t done for several years and booked a session with a pro domme. I did this for a number of reasons. I wanted to explore the dynamic of submitting to a woman as a woman. I had previously played with submissive woman as a top but somehow it never … Continue reading Scratching the Itch to Switch
When I first had sex with Kelly it seemed natural to kneel before her, kiss her feet before working my way up to kiss the labia, massage her clit with my tongue, kneeling in adoration before she drew me gently to my feet. We kissed before she made me lean over the bed. She spanked me hard and I was still stinging when I felt … Continue reading Girls on Top
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