I have been quiet on this blog for quite a while. After a busy 2020, when writing dulled the pain of being under effective house arrest, and a slightly less busy but still productive 2021, I had a quiet 2022 as normal life resumed and gathered speed, maybe a little more quickly than I would have liked. There are reasons for this, of course, the … Continue reading IN THE YEAR OF NOT GOING TO EROTICON
In my last post on the ever-wearying trans debate I said I would return to the issue of single sex spaces. Here goes: I am going to start with Blackpool Football Club and an apology to any Seasiders fans who may be reading this as I am going back to a time in their club’s history that they do not remember fondly. That is the … Continue reading A FEW THOUGHTS ON “SINGLE SEX SPACES”
I didn’t fall for her because she was beautiful but rather because she wasn’t. I was hers the moment I saw her, on an October day twenty years ago. I was wondering through the Moravian Gallery, on my final day in the city. Brno is actually a pleasant city, once you have penetrated the dystopian outer ring of Communist era panelaky, and like peeling off … Continue reading Ars Amandi
I have a friend, let’s call her Sarah. Some years ago Sarah was trapped in an abusive relationship, emotionally abusive and not physically I understand. This relationship left her with deep seated feelings of worthlessness and, as so often in abusive relationships, a perception that she had to stay with her abuser because no one else would have her. She did not deserve better. At … Continue reading Roe v Wade – A Wider View
I love my female friendships, I do. I love that I can share and that my girlfriends want to share with me. I think I am quite a complex person, difficult even, certainly often troubled, and I love that I have women in my life who care about me and are ready ti listen and, sometimes, offer sensible advice. I could not live without them. … Continue reading A NIGHT OUT WITH THE GIRLS
There was a time when a hotel room key was a key. And then your room key became a plastic thing, the size of a credit card that was programmed at reception when you checked in and presented to you in a paper holder with your room umber written on with a ballpoint pen. The room door has a variety of contraptions for you to … Continue reading ON HOTELS, LIFTS AND CARD KEYS
I now only work 3 days a week which means I should have more time to do what I love most, namely blogging (or should I say doing the things I blog about). But since the end of lockdowns and restrictions my posts her have become intermittent. This is not the first time. I began the blog at the end of 2012 at a time … Continue reading BACK TO BLOGGING 
My man is in prison. I am not going to tell you what for, it doesn’t matter. But he is in prison,one of those Victorian prisons, with high walls with a big, fat tube stuck on top to stop you climbing over, and a gatehouse with towers and turrets, like some parody of a castle.He is somewhere inside on a big echoing wing, in a … Continue reading Dolores
Finally a New Year post. I have been a bit busy you see, with postgraduate study and general post-pandemic fatigue. So I have been quiet here. I wasn’t only generally world weary but sex weary, kink weary and even football weary, But that, as they day, is a different story. Frankly if you had had to watch West Bromwich Albion for most of this season … Continue reading New Year – Getting My Mojo Back
Metallic gold gel polish was my favourite. I had my nails done in early March 2020 for my birthday night out. They looked fabulous. They filled me with belief ad confidence. I’m 58 but so fucking what? I am sexy, I am gorgeous. I am going to take on the world. And I nearly did…… But within two weeks my world of being 58 and … Continue reading The Joy of Painted Nails
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