An Appetite for Pleasure

When I was 11 and staying at a friend’s house, we stumbled upon her father’s porn stash. We spent the afternoon leafing through these well- thumbed copies of Men Only.  At this distance in time I don’t remember a great deal about them except being fascinated by a photospread of a guy eating bananas and cream off his partner’s lady parts. And so a connection between food and sex was established in my mind. A current male lover loves to lick various sweet treats off my feet and this is as good a pedicure as I have had in any salon and delightfully erotic.

I, in my time, have greedily licked yoghurt and honey off cock, I have drawn a Cadbury’s Flake out of a girlfriend with my teeth (and soaked in pussy juice a Flake is, well, something else) and I still shudder to think to think about the mess a lover and I made of a hotel bed with a steak and kidney pie.

The point for me is that food is sensual, sex is sensual. Eating oysters is quite a bit like sucking cock, it’s just that cock is even better when your lover comes in your mouth. And like all the sensual pleasures they are predicated on mortality. I was, therefore,  little surprised a while ago to talk to a sex positive lady (and part time sex worker)   describing the way in which she had lost weight, through one of the many faddish diets.

“I haven’t eaten for 48 hours”  she said with a smile. “And I’m nor even hungry.”

Well, yes, I thought but this is missing the point. Food is not an enemy it is a pleasure to be embraced like a lover. Eat well, eat regularly just not to excess. Deny yourself nothing. Yet so many people do. And they are surely blunting their sensual appetite more generally. Deny yourself dessert  and what are you going to lick off your lover before you fuck? And how can you get properly horny and have the energy for love making without steak or oysters or a glass of wine?

I have lost three and a half stone since the beginning of 2015. I am now dress size 12 to 14 where I was once a 22. Some of this was down to running but mainly it is down to making the decision to eat well and eat regularly. Three proper meals, no snacks. Oh and room for dessert, room for cheese, room for wine.  It was while visiting friends In France that I had this idea. My friends pointed out that there are far fewer overweight people in France than in England yet most French people eat well. I had to agree.

I really can’t imagine Catherine Deneuve going 48 hours without food and not feeling hungry, still less being happy about it. So I’m just off out to buy cheese and maybe a crème brulee. And then I will see where the evening takes me.

In The Family Way

I have written before about Eroticon and how those who attend regularly have become a kind of family. Writing can be an isolating experience and when your subject matter is sex, and particularly  when it is seen from the angle of unconventional and alternative sexualities, this isolation can be compounded by the stigma and lack of understanding that requires many bloggers and writers to write pseudonymously, in some cases, going to great lengths to protect their real names.  So it is really good to get together from time to time and chat, and drink , and eat and laugh with people like you, people who “get it”

Yesterday’s blogger meetup in Birmingham was  not a reprise of Eroticon ans several of the bloggers present have not yet been there (but surely will) but it was great to spend an afternoon with awesome people, new friends and old friends, the inevitable cigarette and swapping of gleeful reminiscences about election night with Girl on the Net, planning cocktails and cake for Smutathon next weekend, all this awesomeness, while just 50 yards away, the massed ranks of 20 Britain First supporters, ranted into a void.

We are going to do this again. I only hope the next ne doesn’t clash with rugby at Moseley…please! But I will be there anyway. You are family.

Huge thanks to Horny Geek Girl and Echo Explores for organising.