There we were in a cocktail bar on a Friday night, nine women enjoying ourselves, the drink flowing along with the conversation. Some of the ladies I had never met before, the others I couldn’t claim to know particularly well. And yet. We all felt a connection. And the connection was that we are different and proud of it. Visually we stood out, in our frocks, (quite a bit of leopard on view!) dyed hair, tattoos and so on. We were probably quite loud as well. I may have imagines disapproving glances coming our way but maybe not….. The point is we were not typical customers.
One of our group summed it up succinctly…”Everyone else here is so boring!”
What she meant was that everyone else was normal, dressed not to stand out, seemingly not obviously enjoying themselves particularly. Young people, well younger than us mainly, just being, well, respectable.
“Why be normal” I said, “when you can be awesome?”
The others agreed.
Being into vintage is making a statement, of being different and loving it. It is a way of finding friends who are, in a sense, soulmates. People who get it, get you. I am not talking necessarily about our little coven but in the vintage world you get to meet ladies who have had their struggles with anxiety, low self-esteem, and so on and have come through it and have learned that there is strength in embracing their difference. I have been on the vintage scene for under two years but have met so many lovely people. Well actually I have met a lot of awesome people, all of whom have a story to tell. People who have embraced their difference and understand that going with the crowd is not worth it. People who get it.
What goes for vintage goes for other areas of life too, areas of my life in fact. If you’re reading this and thinking you don’t fit in, know that you have soulmates out there that you haven’t yet met. Learn to accept yourself, learn to love yourself and then share the love. When you do, you will be well on the way to being awesome.
And a final word for my vintage sisters. Thank you for being in my life. You have enriched it more than you probably know. I look foreword to drinking cocktails with you again. You are awesome!